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Welcome back to another episode on more than a busy mom podcast. I'm actually in a new spot today, recording this episode. I have been testing out different places. My producer and I have been listening to audio and determining the best space to get the best audio. And we're still learning, but I am. In my closet, the closet that houses all the bins with the baby clothes. So, I am deep in clothes right now and suitcases and all the things. So, just know that when someone records a podcast, you just never know where they are. So, I'm just going to tell you where I am each time because I just kind of find that fascinating.
Anyway, the first thing, honestly, I want to say is thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for everyone who listened to that first episode and reached out and just showered we showered me with just the most amazing support and love the hugs, the DMS, the text messages. Um, it has been amazing. I just can't wait to do this episode for you today. I love giving value to my community.
I love over delivering and that's what you're going to get here on this podcast. People over delivered. To me, and this is my gift back is to over deliver to anyone who will listen. So thanks for being here and let's get into this. So today we're going to dig into this idea of when you know, you're ready. Dot, dot, dot. When you know, you're ready to change jobs. When you know, you're ready to grow your family. When you know, you're ready to get back out there and date again. When you know you're ready to pursue a desire or a passion. So in whatever, whatever place you are, I am 100 percent sure that you're going to take something away from this episode.
So what I want you to, what I want to do is take you back to my story that I shared in episode one. And if you didn't listen to episode one, you might want to just pause here and go back so you can get the full story, um, from where I'm going to pick up today. I want to pick up where I left off with myself on the beach.
In that moment, I remember sitting on that beach and thinking to myself that there has got to be a Better way a better way to do this thing called life in that moment I was willing to do anything to move out of this feeling of misery I just wanted to feel different and so with talking to my husband about it and doing some Exploring on my own I came across life coaching And funny enough, I came across life coaching because it popped up in an ad in my Instagram feed.
So that makes me think that social media is listening to me and I know it's listening to me because I must've said something that triggered that ad to come up that day. And that's kind of freaky if I'm being honest. Anyway, this ad came up from life coaching and it was through the life coach school. And in that moment, in that moment, I saw that ad. And that movement, I heard Brooke Cascio talk about changing your life and how it was so possible. Like, I made that decision in that moment of what I was going to do. I was ready to get help through life coaching. So after landing on this idea that I wanted to look into life coaching, I let several weeks go by.
So it was that moment on the beach, finding this Instagram ad, and then like nothing. But honestly, things were happening during those weeks. And what was happening was my brain was throwing a bit of a temper tantrum and that temper tantrum was around money. I had this wonderment of how I was going to pay for support and all of these stories were going on in my brain like we don't have the money, the money needs to go to something else. Insurance isn't going to pay for it. You know, what are we going to do? And so I had. Long conversations with my husband, actually multiple long conversations with my husband about what to do and just bless him. He was like, you're going to get the help that you need. And we're just going to figure it out. We're just going to figure out how to pay for it.
And I remember that day I hit the button to start. I actually remember exactly where I was. I was at school that day, and the kids weren't there, so it must have been a professional development day. And I remember sitting at my desk, and my feet were propped up on my desk, I was leaning back in my chair, just kind of like looking around and thinking, and I remember thinking like, What do I need to do right now?
I need to make a decision. It's a yes or it's a no, because it was just consuming me so much, so much of my brain. And in that moment, I was Um, and I just said, you know what? It's time. I don't know how I'm going to pay for this, but we're moving forward. And I hit that button, and I paid for that service, and that's the day that help started.
And the thing was, you know, I hit that button, but I had no evidence that life coaching was going to help me. I just had to be in the belief that this support, any type of support, really, was going to help me. And it's so funny that, I think now about what brain was offering me then and like brain totally had my back. I don't think I fully believed that change was going to happen. But something inside me was like, let's go for it because just wait until you see what happens and it's funny how that just kind of like coming back to me now and I can honestly say that that was one of the best decisions that I have made in my life making the decision to Get the help to move forward to look forward to possibilities and to understand how capable I actually am for someone to help me understand that and to work through that.
I mean, I feel like I won the lottery. So if you're thinking about getting help, life coaching is one avenue that you can go down. There's an avenue for therapy, there's an avenue for counseling, and what you need to do is figure out what avenue is best for you and best for the type of support you are seeking.
And here's the thing, you might choose one avenue and it might just not be what you need and that's okay. I'd rather you try and seek out a support system and see that maybe it doesn't align with your vision and then try something else. What happens is We just don't make a choice. And then we wonder why we are in the same place day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year. Multiple years being in the same place. So, my reminder to you, please make a choice if you need support. When brain says, I am ready, follow brain's lead and make a choice. Moving forward. If life coaching is something that you would like to look into, please reach out, visit the show notes. I have all the links that you need in order to get in contact with me.
If it's even a wonderment, or if you just want to talk and share your story, just to see what I have to say about it. Reach out. I'd love to have a 30 to 60 minute conversation with you over Zoom. I'd love to meet you, hear your story, and give you just a few little nuggets to get you started. If you meet me on Zoom, you never have to purchase a coaching package.
That first conversation is just like a meet and greet. Super simple. You'll grab a cup of coffee. You can sit on the couch, wrap yourself in a blanket, get super comfy and just have a very open conversation with me, but just know I will never pressure you to move forward with a coaching package. So that's my plug. Visit the show notes for more information.
Okay, so let's get back into this, recognizing when you're ready, what I want to do is take you through a few steps that I went through that you can also go through and deciding what to do next, whether that is changing the job or expanding your family or whatever situation you're in, you can use. my steps. So the first thing I was taught was to become really aware of what my brain was offering me, right? We have all of these facts happening around us, but what I was told to tune into was my brain. How was I thinking? So, when I take myself back to that day on the beach, sitting there, looking out at the water, my children running around me, hanging on me, whining, requesting all the things.
These are a couple of thoughts that I remember. Maybe not exactly and super specific, but kind of like, This is kind of what my brain was offering me. Brain was saying thoughts like, I'm always tired. Um, I feel stuck. Things feel stressful. I'm not working out. Health is taking a back seat in my life right now. I really want to do something different. I just don't have the time. Maybe when the kids are older. My, My days are full of to do lists. My to do lists have to do lists. Like, those are all the thoughts, kind of, if I think back about it, um, the thoughts that kind of occupied my brain over and over and over.
So with the flooding going on, what happens is that when the brain floods with thoughts like that, feelings are generated in your body, feelings such as overwhelm and, and anger and irritation and sadness, frustration, worry, anxiety. The brain offers you thoughts, and then what happens is the brain then takes those thoughts and generates feelings.
And you know what you do with feelings in your body, whether positive or negative, you take action or you don't take action. So let me go through that process again, because this is, this is an overall understanding of kind of the flow that I go through in life coaching. So we start with our thoughts and what happens is how we think generates the feelings in our body.
And when we are feeling a certain way, we take action or we don't take any action. So when I look at my situation, I think all of those, I think about all those negative feelings and I start to think through those feelings, what actions was I taking? What was I? What actions were I, was I not taking? So here's a couple of examples.
I was scrolling for a long time on my phone instead of connecting with my family. I was doing a lot of work in my education job. I was spending a lot of time at. School and then spending a lot of time on work at home. I wasn't really spending a lot of time with my husband. My time with my children wasn't at the quality that I really wanted to spend the time with my children.
I was doing a lot of cleaning and a lot of recleaning and a lot of vacuuming and organizing and straightening. Even though things were kind of already in order and when I look back another action that I was doing through overwhelm and feeling worried and frustrated was taking a lot of naps and During that time, I really didn't recognize that Until I was talking to a coach and this kind of came out But yeah, I was sleeping All the time. So when I think about having those feelings and the actions that I was taking, then I start thinking, well, what was, what was I not doing? Right? I wasn't choosing to move my body.
I wasn't choosing to plan out time to spend with my husband or thinking of opportunities to be with my children. Without the distraction of home projects and cleaning and technology. So let's go through that one more time. It starts with a thought in our brain. That thought or those thoughts generate feelings in our body.
And then the feelings then drive you to take action. Or those feelings prevent you from actually taking action. And you know what you're left with? You're left with a result. And I am pretty sure that you can take a guess on the result that I created the result. I myself created all of my thoughts and all of my negative feelings were just fueling these actions and fueling or maybe preventing other actions to be happening.
And because I never questioned what brain was offering me. My results never changed until that day on the beach until that day I remember thinking I am ready I have got to do something different and I'm willing to do anything and that thought That empowering thought was what moved me forward And here's the thing.
Sometimes we miss what our body is communicating to us. We are unaware of what is happening in the brain, unaware of what is happening in the body, because brain and body just see these thoughts and feelings as normal, as habit. And we just accept these thoughts and these feelings. Like we're not bringing any awareness to what's actually going on.
And then sometimes we are aware of what brain, we're aware of what brain is thinking. We are aware of the feelings being generated in our body and we just ignore it. We just have this belief that everything's just going to get better. When in reality, nothing's going to get better until you do something about it, until you think differently, until you experience different feelings and take different actions.
I go back to this saying all the time with my clients. If nothing changes, nothing changes. I want to say that again. If nothing changes, nothing changes. So think about that. So as I wrap up this episode, I want to give you a recap of what I shared today and the different action steps you can take this week.
Recognizing when you're ready takes a lot of work. It takes a lot of work up front, but just know that work up front gives you a lot of relief down the line. So are you willing to do the work now to feel relief? later. And I'm not talking about relief in a year or two. I'm talking about tomorrow. I'm talking about next week.
I am talking about a month from now. Relief doesn't have to be so far out. Don't let brain convince you that will relief will take a long time. Yes, it's hard work, but When you put the work in, the relief does come. So I want to remind you to think about your thinking. Get really clear on what thoughts brain is offering you out of habit.
Get in tune with your body. How are you feeling? What feelings are coming up over and over again? What feelings are just kind of hanging out in the body and not really moving? What actions are you taking or not taking? And overall, What results have you created in your life? And if you're sitting there thinking, Oh my goodness, this is a lot.
Well, it is, it is a lot. I jam packed a lot into this episode to show you the work that it takes to create. change the work that it takes to take that next step forward. It is a lot of work and the work will give you some amazing results. And really this work doesn't have to be done by yourself. You can totally do this work by yourself and.
You will see change. You can also do this work with a support system and probably see change a bit faster. It's always up to you. But yes, this is one, it is 100 percent possible to do this by yourself. Use the questions that I provide to you on this podcast. Use the guidance, use the tips, use the ideas that I present here.
You can always try this on your own first, and then if you're like me, I actually need a little bit more support with this, right? I needed to reach out to someone, ask the questions, get the feedback, and I ended up making a lot of progress. I mean, I'm going to talk about the progress in another episode, but I am a different person, a different mom, a different wife, just a different woman, a different human being than I was three years ago.
So as we end here, I hope you enjoy the next clip. I have a clip of a current client who shares about when she knew she was ready. When she was ready to take that next step forward. I hope she inspires you and I would love to hear your thoughts about today's episode. If anything resonated with you, please reach out.
You can always visit the show notes to find links and places to find me. I hope you have the most amazing week and until next time.
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